I’m not going to keep you on your toes with this one. Here they are: Non-resistance, non-judgement, non-attachment.
Non-resistance
Completely accept “what is”. Accept the situation the way it is as a temporally “is-ness” of things. Be ok with everything that surrounds you. Welcome every experience and look at it as just another learning curve along the way.
For instance: One evening I ate a lot of ice cream before bed time. I was up all night because of the “sugar-overdose” and by the morning I felt absolutely drained and exhausted, so I wasn’t particularly looking forward to work 8 hours that day. I was a mess and my attitude toward the day was pretty bad. In my head I started having these obsessive thoughts about how bad I have it in life. And then I caught myself and realized that I maybe I shouldn’t go in that negative direction. So I started saying to myself: Take it easy now! You’re not gonna die 
, everything is fine, pull it together, don’t take this too seriously. And it helped. I got out of this pathetic mindset and went about my day.
My advice: Don’t take life or yourself too seriously! Be one with the flow of life!
Non-judgement
When you judge a situation, circumstances or people you are concentrating on what’s wrong with things. And when you concentrate on those things you get more of the same and vicious cycle goes on.
For instance: If you don’t like your neighbor and you perceive him or her as a person who’s not a pleasant individual you will not see any good in him or her.
Neighbors are willing to kill each other over insignificant matters like a tree’s branch hanging over the fence, being loud and small things like that. And of course it is not about the tree in the first place. It is all about one person’s point of view is threatened by someone and it needs to be defended. When you defend what you believe is “right” you don’t particularly want to solve the problem; the opposite happens; you want to sustain the problem so you can prove it over and over again that you are right; which ultimately makes you fear superior.
Advice: Try not to judge anything for an hour! Let me know how it went and how it feels?
Non-attachment
When you attached to things you strengthen your ego. Things give you a sense of self identification. Like: “I’m one of those guys who has a pitbull and drives a BMW and works as financial adviser” and things like that. We are constantly building our story about who we think we are. (Which has actually nothing to do with who we really are.)
Let things come and go in your life without the need trying to control how long they stay.
Your mantra should be: “This too will pass.”
Which is true for all (bad or good) things. If there is something good in your life right now, know that it will not last forever and knowing that makes you appreciate things more. When you are face something that you don’t like know that that too will disappear and you will have the power to push through it.
These are very simple principles but we are programmed in a way so it is extremely hard to live by them. Wouldn’t ya agree?
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October 27, 2011 at 11:55 am
Hey Akos,
Great post here! These are 3 great principles and I highly agree with you. Taking life too seriously would be ultimately boring. We definitely need some variety in life from time to time. As for judging, that can definitely destroy relationships. We need to not jump too quickly in judging people. It’s also very important to not attach ourselves to things especially material objects. Thanks for this post! Keep it up!
October 28, 2011 at 3:45 pm
Hey Pete,
Whatever we judge something in somebody it is also in us, so we gotta be careful before labeling. As far the material objects go they come and go in my life and they do not make feel happy when I have them or sad when they are gone.
I really appreciate the input
October 27, 2011 at 3:25 pm
Hi Akos,
These are 3 very powerful principles.
Non-resistance and acceptation of whatever happens helps me to stay more present and grateful. It is not always easy to do, but is certainly worth using this principle.
Thanks for the reminder!
October 28, 2011 at 3:48 pm
Hello Marc,
Honestly I was struggling to live by these principles for a very long time and I’m still an infant in the sense of awakening. ( I have some moments of clarity here and there
)
Thank you for your feedback!
October 27, 2011 at 3:47 pm
I would most definitely agree 101%, Akos! I loved how you tackled this post man. You made it make sense and gave some really good points to consider. Being honest with myself and you here, I have had issues with each of these myself. This post was a source of awareness for me. Knowing better, means to do that aspect of your life better. Thanks mate! I really appreciate the share.
October 28, 2011 at 4:05 pm
Hey hey Deeone,
Well “being honest with myself and you here”
I wouldn’t say I’m the perfect practitioner of these principles by any means but I’m working on being a better being every single day.
Thank you for your contribution.
October 28, 2011 at 6:16 pm
Great post Akos,
I definitely agree with these 3 principles.
I agree that by beating yourself up over things that you do is not helpful. Just beware of it and do better the next time. Chalk it up as a learning experience.
It took me a little longer to deal with the judging part of it. I try to give people the benefit of the doubt. Like if someone really ticks me off, I like to think that they had a bad day and they are taking it out on me. Nothing more and nothing less.
The not attaching ourselves to things comes a lot easier for me. That’s never been a problem or concern of mine.
Enjoyed the post!
~Adrienne
October 29, 2011 at 4:35 pm
Hey Adrienne,
To me being not judgemental is the most challenging aspect of all. We are somehow programmed to bring people, situations down so we feel superior…..weird game or our egos.
thanks for your contribution!
October 28, 2011 at 6:52 pm
Loved this post! When you find yourself practicing Non-resistance, Non-judgement, and Non-attachment you find so much more joy in living. Life seems more like a gift than a struggle. Have a great weekend!
October 29, 2011 at 4:38 pm
Hello Wendy,
Well said. That’s the way to get in touch with our true “beings.”
great weekend to you too!
October 29, 2011 at 9:05 pm
Great advice Akos. I don’t drink alcohol any more but I have overindulged in sugar many times recently. The sugar hangover feeling is almost identical to an alcohol hangover.
Letting go of resistance, attachment and judgment is a recipe for a very soulfully rewarding life.
November 2, 2011 at 9:30 pm
Hey Justin,
Sure enough, it is not easy to stay on the path (trying to mater these principles) but payoff is sweeeeeeeeet.
October 30, 2011 at 5:21 am
Hi Akos,
You kept this really simple, but yet for many, they are going to struggle with this a bit. It is ok to struggle with these three principles though. Life is about the journey.
Personally for me, I experience a lot of resistance, especially with my relationships. I am always asking why are my relationships so tough. I want to fight it and make them better. But the more I fight, the worse it seems to get.
I am ok with judgement and becoming more aware about unattachment now. Although I still crave for some of the finer things in life. I check myself at least.
November 2, 2011 at 9:27 pm
Hello Jimmy,
Personally all I do is detect resistance, judgment and attachment in myself. Just to be aware of these limiting patterns rising is enough to be a little more awake.
I’m too wishing for better stuff but I do not care at all if I get them or not. The funniest thing is when I’m not attached to an outcome it happens exactly the way I wanted to.
Thanks for your contribution!
November 2, 2011 at 5:06 pm
I do agree that practicing the aforesaid 3 principles is the key to more happiness and joy. But it is easier said than done. Knowing about the principles might be easy. Practicing them however is very hard.
Have a great day!
Mouh
November 2, 2011 at 8:36 pm
No doubt about that but practice makes perfect. (or at least that’s what I heard!
) Thanks for the feedback! Akos
November 3, 2011 at 2:24 am
Hi Akos,
3 sound principles here. Judging, resisting & attaching just accumulate ‘excess baggage’, something that is definitely not useful…..travel light.
be good to yourself
David
November 5, 2011 at 1:31 pm
Hey David,
Most definitely this “excess baggage” is cause of not only creating limiting beliefs but also for human suffering all around.
thanks for the feedback
Cheers